Friday, October 22, 2010
Ms.Independent or Ms.Stupid
Ok everyone knows i am the definition of Ms.Independent; not patting myself on the shoulder but for real I GOT MY OWN!..I was even born to be Independent!..July 4th babii =].I absolutely dont need a man for JACK SQUAT!(wanted to say another word but this blog is PG). Never have and never will!..ok enough with me sounding like the extreme feminist. Ask any man out there to describe their ideal partner and "a woman that is independent" is a top priority. However, come to think of it being an independent female comes with its perks but also some disadvantages.Time to pull out the list.(there can be more or less added to this list)
1. GOOD: You dont need to depend on anyone for anything. You make your own decisions. You set your own rules. You handle your business. What's not to love about that?!?!?
2.BAD: You tend to use your independence as an excuse as to why you tolerate certain things from a guy. I for sure can attest to this one. We feel like just because we dont need nothing from them it's ok for them to DO nothing for you.::le sigh:: This one is probably my biggest downfall.
3. BAD: Your stubborn!..oh gosh!...definitely me with this one. You believe that since your handling situation that you don't need advice or help from anyone around you. You tend to make decisions(which aren't always wise ones) on your own. Not to bash anyone that makes their own decision but they say two heads are better than one. Sometime we are so caught up in being independent and being the big "guy" that we tend to let this mask our perception of the world around us. We only see things from our point of view and we get EXTREMELY upset when people don't see eye to eye or agree with us.
4. GOOD: All in all we take care of business. We get what we're suppose to get done.
5.GOOD: An independent female is very Confident. Some are so confident that they may come off as being narcissistic and egotistical. OK OK maybe this one can be a bad trait also..lolz..but come on if you don't believe in your own self worth then how can you expect someone else to think your worthy??..duh logic!..lolz..
6. BAD: We do a lot of work and have very little fun. Life is all about what you put in it. You cant expect to just work all days of your life and then expect to have a happy life in the end. Yes you might be successful but i know for a fact that you wont be happy. You will always feel like you missed out on something; and that's because you did. You missed out on enjoying your youth, nurturing your body, and growing alongside your friends and family.
This list can go on forever in my opinion but i'll leave it at this for now
All in all being independent is the truth!. Ain't nothing wrong with being dependent on yourself. Ain't nothing wrong with having PRIDE and JOY in what you have accomplished. However, don't use your independence as a reason for making STUPID decisions when it comes to your relationships with others. You have to learn how to balance being Independent and also being a human being. Don't make your ego be a rationale as to why we accept certain things in life. We have standards, but some of these standards need to include that we need others in our life, we need them for their support, love, and advice. Don't shut the world out just because "you think you got this",instead use everyone's opinions as a baseboard for your success.
Nothing is wrong with having expectations from other people. Whether they meet your expectations is what should really matter.
"Women are never stronger than when they arm themselves with their weaknesses"Madame Marie du Deffand